“Anger is a great force, if you can control it. It can be transmuted into a power that can move the whole world.” – William Shenstone.
We have always termed anger to be a negative emotion, but it is this emotion that has been responsible for revolutions around the world. The human body is built in such a way that, if the environment outside can evoke emotions inside it, it houses the ability to combat the emotion and direct its flow. Boiling water creates steam that can then move a locomotive. A candle can light up a room, but the same fire can burn down the whole of the Amazon forests. The difference is in the outcome. Has it created or destroyed? Controlling what you create by controlling how you feel makes all the difference. It is critical to understand your body and mind.
It is important to observe patterns of your behavior and what has been the outcome of such behavior. It then becomes easy to know what changes need to be made. Changing habits is difficult but not impossible. Counseling and therapy help in not only to understand the reaction of your body to different emotions but also how you can exercise control.
There are many ways of acquiring these skills. One of them is the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT). It is a therapy that has shown great medical, psychological and healing results.
Using the fingers on one hand to tap the points on different parts of the other hand, such that you patiently calm your nerves is the technique of this therapy. To practice it, you would need to tap the ‘karate chop point’ of one hand with four fingers of the other hand. You can also tap the ‘opposite side of your thumb’ with four fingers. While you do this, speaking to yourself to cut off the negative or external talks is important. Try saying:
– “Even though I feel angry, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
– “Even though I am anxious, about…… (give your reason), I deeply and completely accept myself.”
– “Even though I panic when I think about……. (give your reason), I deeply and completely accept myself.”
Repeat these statements three times aloud, while simultaneously tapping the points on your hand. Use firm but gentle pressure, as if you were drumming on the side of your desk or testing a melon for ripeness. As you complete the set of three, you would have started a new pattern to calm your mind down and focus on the problem with a solution orientation. You will see the difference between how you felt when you were in the middle of an issue and how you feel after you have calmed your nerves down. If your anger is still high, you can do another round of tapping. Continue the process until you are ready to address the issue more sanely. Remember, every habit takes time, so be patient. You can change your affirmations to focus on solutions and your desire to progress. For e.g. you can also say, “Even though I still feel angry regarding………, I deeply and completely accept myself.” “Even though I am still a little worried about………., I deeply and completely accept myself,” or “Even though I feel very frustrated right now about….., I deeply and completely believe, I will find solutions.”
Converting anger into a fuel that will accelerate you forward into success and achievements takes time, patience and consistent efforts, but once done, you will learn how to use the power of anger to push you forward to do things that can positively change your life. The greatest revenge is success and success is directly proportionate to the hunger and the anger you have inside towards a given situation. That is how freedom was gained… that is how success is gained.
News Reported By: Radhika Joshi.